When someone’s happiness is your happiness, that is love.-Lana Del Rey
How would you describe the world’s best caddy?
If you were to ask me, my answer would be several things:
- Someone who believes in team work– It’s an us mentality, instead of a “you”. My perfect caddy will always say “We need to hit a 5 yard 7-iron draw because of this left to right wind.”
- Someone who keeps the demons away– When we’re playing well and in contention, my caddy will distract me from my score so I don’t overthink my game. He’ll make me laugh and ask me questions unrelated to my game until we get to the next shot. When I hit a bad shot or putt , he’ll know that my demon is to overanalyze so he’ll blame it on external factors or himself. “Oops, that was my bad! I mis-read that break.” Or “wow, that wind really picked up.”
- Someone who celebrates with you– When I make a 10 footer for birdie, he is fist bumping as if he’s just made it himself.
- Someone who is honest in the right moments– During the round, he knows that I’m swinging too much from the inside path so he lines me up slightly left to compensate for my push. After a round, he’ll tell me that honestly, I need to hit the range to work on my swing path for tomorrow’s round.
- Someone who puts your feelings and wellbeing before their own– During the round, he is constantly making sure that I’m hydrated and energized, ready to perform at my best.
- Someone who believes in you even when you don’t believe in yourself– Sometimes, I’m just not feeling my best. I know I’ve hit 275 yd bombs down the middle every other day, but today I just don’t really know where my backswing is. It’s one of those days that my socks are straight, my hair is acting up and I’m just not feeling 100%. So my caddy gives me a pep talk right before the round, telling me all the reasons why I’m awesome, reminding me of all the times I’ve hit that amazing drive and that it’s all in my head.
How does this translate from Tee to Street? How do we define the perfect life caddy?
- Someone who believes in team work– we’re a team, it’s us against the world, you are never alone.
- Someone who keeps the demons away– someone who knows me well enough to distract me when I’m fretting and make me laugh when I’m worried
- Someone who celebrates with you– My success is your success. Your success is my success.
- Someone who is honest in the right moments– Someone who will give me constructive feedback, not to tear me down but to continue improving on myself.
- Someone who puts your feelings and wellbeing before their own– In your moments, such as before a job interview or big presentation, they focus on you. When the roles have reversed, its your turn to caddy.
- Someone who believes in you in times when you don’t believe in yourself- Someone who believes in you, your goals, your aspirations, with every ounce of their being that you have no choice but to become that.
When you have the life caddy(s) and you become the life caddy, magical things begin to happen.