We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.-George Bernard Shaw
I’ve just started implementing a new morning routine that involves no screen time and a morning walk along the beach with coffee. So I walk out the front door with no phone, no form of identification and no money. I will admit, in the first few days doing it, I could feel my heart drop every time I felt for my phone and couldn’t find it. I would feel uneasy leaving the house with no form of identification. What if I got arrested and spent the rest of my life in prison because the police couldn’t identify me?
Do you remember being a child? Running out the door to play with your friends without a worry in mind? No wallet, no phone, no form of identification? No thought of what if’s and buts.
Yes, I acknowledge that we had grownups watching over us then, that we weren’t responsible for anything or anyone else and had no obligations other than being a cheery blissful child.
I fully understand that the glum reality that we now have to be those grownups that were once watching over us, that we are responsible for ourselves and others and that we now have obligations to fulfill other than being a cheery blissful child.
But, what about the freedom we now have, such as not having to ask permission to see our friends. What about the sense of fulfillment we have when accomplishing a task. Or the cognitive ability to direct the sails on our own life instead of having others dictate it for you?
I guess my point is, why can’t we have both? Being an adult doesn’t mean having to squash our inner child because we now have responsibilities and obligations now. We’re such smart creatures, capable of conquering the world! If we can’t take the best of both worlds while leaving the bad behind, no one can.
Here are three ways to let your inner child out while still enjoying the perks of being a grownup:
- Let go of outcome and just do. As an adult, we worry constantly. What if? What if we put in all this effort at work and don’t get that promotion we really really want? What if we push our putt and miss this 3-footer? Scratch that! Just put in the work and f*** it. We can’t control it anyways, so save yourself the hassle.
- Do something that makes you happy everyday. Take some time to figure out what truly makes you happy. Like truly. Not what you think should make you happy, not what you should be doing to be productive. Find something that makes you feel so blissful and carefree and brings out your inner child. I.E. for me, it’s being in nature and drinking tea.
- Be present. I get it, we’re adults, we can’t always be in the moment because we’re thinking of other things constantly. But if we can just bring ourselves back, even for a brief moment, such as when we’re on auto-pilot on our commute and feel the leather on our steering wheel, that’s one step closer to connecting with our inner child.
- Spend more time with the right people. Spend more time with people who allow you to let your walls down, someone who knows and loves you for you, where you can truly be yourself. We can’t be child-like and carefree if we’re always worried if we’re being judged.
If we can just improve in minuscule increments to connect with our inner child, I believe we can live happier lives. Usually, I like to discuss ways to lower our handicap first before taking it to the streets. However, I think in this case, it works best to go from street to tee. Stay tuned for an article coming out soon for how we can improve our golf game by connecting with our inner child.