Darling, the world doesn’t owe you anything.
I used to get offended when I heard this. I mean, of course I knew that, did you think I was some spoiled entitled child that thought I could have everything handed to me? Duh, if you don’t put in the work, you’re not going to get anything out of it. Period.
But, I recently realized that, that mentality I just spoke up is only one side of it.
Did you know, that even when you do put in all this work, the world still doesn’t owe you anything? Meaning, we can pour our heart and soul into something and still not get our desired outcome. That is the true meaning of it, and I think a lot of us, including myself fail to see.
Let’s use my college golf game as an example. I would commit myself to a minimum of 5 hours a day dedicated to golf, 7 days a week. This could be spread over a variety of activities such as golf based gym work, range time, short game practice or on course play. I would pour my blood, sweat and tears into my game, force myself up as the sun rose, practice until sunset and blow off social plans.
I vividly remember a day when it was pouring and miserable. I dreaded kicking off my covers but knew I had to honor my commitment to my game. I ended up practicing my chipping for 3 hours that day in the pouring rain because I believed to my core that if I practiced this hard, I would be rewarded with great tournament results.
You want to know something? I wasn’t. Because golf doesn’t care how hard you work, it doesn’t owe you a damn thing.
I think I played my worst round of the season shortly after that rainy chipping session. It was such a slap in the face for me to realize that golf didn’t care about all the blood, sweat and tears I put into my game. Contradicting enough, the sooner I realize that, the better off I was.
It’s such a tremendous lesson, painful but necessary. That lesson, I am now applying to launching my business. The world doesn’t care about all those sleepless nights, the tears, the confusion and frustration, it still doesn’t owe you anything. Not to mention the upcoming hardships. It’s not enough to go through the motions and believe we will be rewarded by competing those actions. We can pour our heart and soul into something we’re so passionate about and we can still fail.
Don’t take it personally, the universe is selfish to everyone. Those who want it bad enough will be the ones to succeed and the ones who expect rewards from it will face a harsh reality one day. It’s not enough to work hard, we must want it, have so much passion coursing through our blood that we relentlessly refuse to fail.